Her thread opens up in an all-too-familiar tone, where we're led to believe it will go to an incredibly dark place:
Maybe?
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Instead, Quint says her indifference to his proposition was met in kind with a guy just acting in a basic, non-rapey way:
Should be expected.
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She goes on to offer several other examples of being in sexual or potentially sexual situations with men who also managed to not sexually assault her:
Annoyed but with character.
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Meeting the right instead of wrong person.
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And here's the real kicker, Quint says she has been assaulted. To her, the difference isn't hard to pinpoint:
Difference being whether they were okay with assault.
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Her thread has been re-tweeted nearly 50,000 times and “liked" more than 100,000 times. Other women and some men jumped in with their own tales of drinking, partying and still, somehow, managing to not assault or even harass the women they encountered.
She married him.
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Men avoid abusers too.
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Kind and human.
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It's a stark contrast to the half-baked defenses of Brett Kavanaugh and other men like him. There are incredibly rare exceptions where a man is accused of assault or harassment and he is entirely free of guilt. But for women, or anyone for that matter, who has survived sexual assault or experienced sexual harassment, there is no “gray area."
There's being OK with assault and then there's everything else. Whether or not we're consciously aware of this, we've all chosen a side. But if you're on the wrong side, it doesn't have to be that way forever.
This article originally appeared on 10.02.18